What is this thing called love?

A strange emotion that triggers our chemistry in our ego and makes us all tangled!

Throughout history, who said what about love, a lot of things have been written. However, there is no one who knows exactly what it is, who can still fully describe it, who has found the right words. The recipes are still unfinished.

There are very famous loves in history.

Leyla and Majnun, Ferhat and Şirin, Kerem and Aslı...

Many others have fallen head over heels in love with each other and have fallen into tongues.

Fuzûlî wrote these loves in 1535 in the mesnevi genre and the work he wrote at that time is still very valuable.

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They say that when two hearts become one, the haystack will be empty. 

It is true, when a person falls in love, he sees nothing else but his beloved.

On the one hand, he experiences the pain of not being able to meet his beloved, his love, and on the other hand, if he is able to meet, he experiences the pleasure of meeting.

When a person falls in love, he is caught in a completely different flood of emotions.

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And what is it that attracts us so much when we fall in love?

Chemistry! Our hormones! 

The enzymes that our body releases involuntarily with that flood of emotion! 

As they say libido, our libido rises when we fall in love. As they say I'm rising, lately, one's mind goes out of his head, he rises from where he is!

A look, a sweet smile, maybe a nice word, but mostly that mutual flood of emotion.

All these make an electrification, we say that we are getting electricity, on the one hand, it's like you are hit by such a current.

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I guess appearance is also important to fall in love with someone, but it is not only appearance that triggers love. 

The reason is not clear, it's just the heart, as they say, we don't even know ourselves who we fall in love with and why and how.

We just fall in love, that's all!

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Of course, I can write about love from the point of view of us men. The ladies may have a slightly different perspective on love. 

I don't want to be critical, but I think they approach love from a material point of view. 

I think this is partly due to the effect of the fertility imposed on them by nature. 

No, the pain of love suffered by women is very much portrayed in films. I am not saying that there is no love in the world of the adversaries, perhaps they experience love with much more intense emotions than us men.

Ladies are much more emotional than us men, this is also a fact.

However, apart from their emotional world, they have to be alone with the fruits of love, and therefore, in addition to the pleasant flood of emotions arising from love, ladies have to take into account the realities of life. 

That is why guaranteeing the continuation of life turns into another emotion that is also very important for them, perhaps in addition to this intense flood of emotions.

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Yes, this brings us to the concept of family.

I don't know when it started, but the institution of family has been an obligatory form of union for humans over time.

There are some creatures in nature that form families, but I think the institution of family has a completely different place for us humans. Most creatures in nature do not have a family. 

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What is the basic rule of family?

To face the difficulties of life together with your spouse!

The man is the pillar of the family, most of the time the man is the breadwinner of the family, and the women take care of the children, especially in the age of housework. 

Because children are much more dependent on their mothers than their fathers at a young age.

It is hard work, but nature has written the genetic codes of women in this way.

That's why a woman who becomes a mother undergoes major changes in her emotional world.

For a while, the duties in the family are separated by these sharp lines and perhaps some things continue in a rather monotonous order during the time the children grow up.

When the children grow up and start their own households, the mother and father are left alone with the emotional bonds they had with each other in those early days.

I say emotional ties, but whatever emotional ties are left.

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Habits!

Love!

And love?

For many, the relationship within the family continues at the level of habits.

For many, the love in those first days when the family was established has now turned into an indispensable love.

Love, on the other hand, continues when you look into the eyes of your mate and your chemistry changes as in the first days.

Love should continue, unions with love are much more beautiful.

Nevertheless, I think that in many families there is no love between the spouses over time. Love atrophies, love is replaced by love, and a life mixed with habits goes on and on.

I think it is also good that love turns into love, after all, love is perhaps much more valuable than love. 

But can there be love without love?

This is another contradiction.

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At this stage, completely different dreams begin for couples.

They say that after forty, it is the razor's edge.

Especially men's eyes start to look out after a certain age.

There are hot chicks walking around!

Yes, now those young ladies around start to look like chicks to your eyes.

As if you have never experienced love in your life, you can't take your eyes off those beautiful women and you want love!

So are these feelings you feel love? 

Or are you experiencing another flood of emotions?

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If a young woman is interested in mature men who have reached a certain age, isn't it obvious from the beginning that her real purpose is much different?

But he is a man, he has a structure that can misunderstand that interest, intentionally or unintentionally.

He just likes you, girl! She likes the mature man!

But is this really the case?

For some, it doesn't matter at all, the important thing is that that fresh, fresh chick is enough to show interest in him even for his money, what more should he want? 

She is so old and still the centre of attention. 

Be proud of yourself!

That's what most men do. 

They are proud of themselves and if they have a successful business life, they change her.

What are you waiting for? Live your life! 

Kids? First lady?

What if there are kids? They're grown up! The missus has other things to do at her age!

And me, I'm a spitfire! 

Well, I'm surrounded by beautiful young ladies. They pay attention to me. 

Why should I miss this opportunity? 

I have an economic situation, life is short brother, just live!

Today it's that woman, tomorrow it'll be someone else!

They say that after forty, it's the rag that makes you horny!

(You know what a rag is, don't you? If you don't, look it up in the dictionary! They used to be made of wood, now they are made of marble).

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No, no, I'm not talking about us, alhamdulillah we are in good spirits.

But I have known many people who have this kind of relationship. 

Some of them have established a new family for themselves, there are even those who have children despite their advanced age. Most of them were disgraced.

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You've infected me with youth!

Yes, there are those who are really infected with youth.

In fact, there used to be many people who left their families in Turkey and had a second spring with beautiful Russian women.

Nowadays, business life is not what it used to be. 

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In short, aside from love, yes, love is a strange feeling that triggers our chemistry and makes us all tangled up, but I guess what happens after a certain age is not very much like love, it cannot be called a physical relationship, it is something else.

I don't know how to define it, it's not love anyway. 

I think the best definition is youth contagion.

Some people get life energy from this youth contagion.

Maybe love is still a beautiful feeling, even at a late age.

I also salute those who still live their first day's love.

I wish everyone a life full of love, may love never be missing from your life.

With love and respect from Moscow.