Is Democracy to blame?

You will do as I say, my friend!

Yes, this is really the feeling that many of us experience.

You will do as I say! 

Why?

Because I want it that way. I feel like it!

But look, it would be better if we do it this way!

No, not like that, like this!

It will be the way I say!

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Why are we like this? 

Why do we always think that our way is the best way?

Actually, I can't say that we think that way.

I mean, this is not a decision arrived at as a result of a feeling, a thought. 

Therefore, it may not always be correct to conclude that you will do as I say. 

What is important is the person's insistence on doing what they say. 

This kind of behavior actually stems from the inflated ego in people.

Me! There is nothing more important than me in this world. I know everything best. Those around me have to listen to me! 

If it was a stubbornness that affects only the person himself/herself, I would say that this is not a problem. 

However, people who have such an ego explosion in their character are surrounded by people who cannot resist their dominant character and feel obliged to listen to them.

Because of such self-centered decisions, which are often made incorrectly, those people are often negatively affected. This is where the real problem lies.

For example, this person may be a family man. 

He may be surrounded by his wife, his children, maybe his elderly family elders.

Who knows what kind of character those few children who are affected by every wrong decision he makes will have, and they will experience the psychological disorder of being born in that family all their lives. Maybe when they grow up, one of them will have a dominant character like his father and will oppress his siblings all their lives. 

Or the wife, for example, ladies, especially if they come from conservative families, usually have loser characters under the pressure of society, can she resist a man with such a dominant character throughout her life? No, of course not, first the pressure from the father, then the pressure from the society, then the pressure from the husband, and then the pressure from the society. 

All these factors unfortunately have a very negative effect on the character formation of some women. 

Moreover, she is a mother, she actually raises the children at home. Therefore, such a mother has a great influence on the character of the children, especially in the developmental stage.

When the father is such a dominant character, he naturally blames all his mistakes on these weaker characters in the family, because he can't put the blame on himself when he makes a mistake.

This happened because of you!

But that's what you said to do!

Shut up, you're answering me!

Maybe domestic violence happens more often in the aftermath of such incidents. Who knows what happens to that wife as a result of the slightest objection.

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My son will be a man!

Yes, indeed, for some reason in most families, sons are much more favored.

Especially if one of them is favored by the father, as I said above, that son becomes the fearful dream of his siblings.

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Is there a way to fix this situation?

Is there a remedy for this disturbing ego of "my way or the highway"?

Education!

I really feel like laughing when I hear this.

Yes, almost everyone thinks of the necessity of education when faced with such questions.

Of course education is a must, but this is also a problem of our social sociology.

You have to educate that child in the family, when he/she is young, and only the mother can do that from the moment of birth. 

So if we are going to educate, we need to educate the expectant mothers first.

But those expectant mothers should also be educated at a very young age.

So again we are stuck on family development.

Of course, her father, who will be a role model for her from a very young age, should not be a person of the character we are talking about. 

I say character, I mean this issue is a bit related to genes, it is a matter of character.

Isn't that where the problem lies? 

In short, you can't reach children at that young age, even if you have the means to educate them!

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So what are we going to do?

First of all, we will not give up trying to educate society. 

We ourselves will be exemplary in our behavior, so that maybe that father will one day realize that he is on the wrong path by looking at us.

And maybe that mother will raise her second or third child better by looking at us.

Don't die on me, is this the way to fix society? 

Yes, it is difficult, but there is no other way!

By the way, if I say it will be fixed, it won't happen tomorrow, of course, it will take at least a hundred years.

Maybe a couple of centuries!

But we don't have time to wait that long. The country is going down the drain!

Well, what can I say, brother, Gazi once tried to make a quick change. 

He was able to reform some of us. Others kept their grudges inside, apparently.

In short, he didn't last long either. We are all mortal. Anyone else wouldn't have lasted long enough.

Besides, it seems that such rapid changes don't work very well. 

Those foci that remain hidden within society, the bigoted mentality that longs for the old way of life, drag society backwards in any case. 

Even if the society doesn't want to transform, sooner or later there is someone who gradually transforms the society back to the old way. 

Well, what did we say, democracy? Look what the blessings of democracy can sometimes do to us.

These things don't happen so easily, you see, it takes centuries to become a modern society.

If you want to do something, stop complaining and go to the neighbor for tea. 

Maybe you can convince Hatice to raise her children well.

Which Hatice?

Yes, that Hatice! 

You know the neighbor you never knock on the door because you despise her, the one you say is from the village, Hatice, Ayşe, Fatma, or Gülsüm, that's who I'm talking about. 

Go knock on her door, tell her you've come to have a cup of tea and have a chat. Mrs. Ayten, I'm talking to you.

Don't worry, Hatice is hospitable, she'll make tea in two minutes, and you can buy something to go with the tea, I don't know, a box of sweets, or something like salty cookies from the bakery.

Sir? No way? 

Why not? Because they're from the village?

They're no match for you?

Then don't complain, accept your fate, I don't know what else to tell you. 

But I'm telling you, tomorrow you won't be able to find a school to send your grandchildren to, I'm telling you. 

Look, they have already started to appoint religious officials to all schools under the name of guidance and social support.

This is democracy, it does such things sometimes, damn it. 

You know, it's all because of this democracy! I think it would be better if it wasn't.

Love and respect to everyone from Moscow