Magic Words and Their Miracles in Our Social Life

For a long time, I have been sharing my feelings, experiences, philosophical and sociological views and readings, historical characters and events, and the Magic powers of Words with you, my dear friends and brothers and sisters, on this page as much as I can think of and as much as my pen writes. What I pay the most attention to in these shares is that it has been my main principle to convey the truths that will benefit the society rather than my own truths. 

Today, when I analyze the people of our country, I regret to see that we have very serious communication problems among us as a nation. The language of politics, this divisive, divisive language has dominated every layer of society. We have left our own thoughts aside, we have rented out our minds to politics in a sense, and each of us has postponed the production of rational, self-reflective thoughts. 

However, humankind, the most powerful being in the world, has managed to record all the matter, objects and beings it thinks and sees in words, has recorded the information it has learned, and has accepted sharing it with others as a way of life. Words have an important place in the basis of progress and development. The way we use words, the way we say them, the intonation of our voice, the way we emphasize, the emotions we add while saying them are very important tools to influence the other person, to communicate with them or not to convey information. This approach also shows our level of civilization. Understanding and respecting each other is a sign of civilization. 

In order to maintain good relations, we must be selective in our use of language and words. However, among the many values that we have lost in our daily lives; we can count beauty, courtesy, manners, tolerance, heart-taking, sweet language, pleasant conversation, etc. As Turkish society, it is like a chain accident has happened to us. We are losing our values one by one, like a rosary that is falling apart. Some of us are aware of this, some of us maybe not, but most of them, unfortunately, don't even seem to care.

I think we should regain our values as individuals of this society. For this, we can start with the first contact with each other, with 'hello', right?

In my social life, I first say "hello" to those who listen to me, and then I immediately ask them how are you? We know that the word hello, which has a magical aura, means "no harm will come to you from me" in Persian and "you have expanded my space and made me feel refreshed" in Arabic. By saying hello, we say that we are pleased to see someone, that we are pleased, that we respect and love them. It is a polite way of starting a conversation. 

We should support this politeness with the question "How are you?". With this one word, the other person understands that we are interested in his/her health, pleasure, family, work and is pleased. Because everyone expects attention from each other. Please be generous in using these words. Let's be stingy in using negative words. A single please is a word that is so important, effective and often invites the other person to empathize. Notice that this word is rarely used in daily life. We are not aware of its importance. From time to time, a 'please' takes away the brutal tension of an argument. It prevents resentment, unnecessary tension and sets a barrier to negative relationships. 

Another word is Rica etmek... Rica etmek comes from Arabic. The word Reca has been adapted into Turkish as rica. It expresses one's closeness to God, one's heartfelt sincerity and faith in Him. Since thanks is a feeling of gratitude, a thankfulness for the existence of the other person, a request is a kind word to say to the person who thanks you. Thank you is the most beautiful expression of spiritual fulfillment. Saying thank you in return for a favor done to us is a gift that will caress the soul of the doer and encourage other favors. Thanking expresses contentment, expresses a debt of heart, and contains the magic of delicacy and kindness. It ignites a smile and happiness. A thank you sometimes takes away the tiredness of the whole day. A thank you refreshes the heart, can make people friends. It opens the doors of the heart. 

And then there is apologize. Of all these words, apologizing is the most difficult to use. These two words mean virtue for those who know them and weakness for those who don't. It is a vocal behavior and a courtesy rule to be forgiven when someone has been hurtful to someone. Pay attention in everyday life. How few people apologize to each other in the media or in bilateral relationships and social gatherings. However, an apology can forgive many flaws and mistakes. The secret is in two words. "I apologize for hurting you, I apologize for being late". 

It is maturity and wisdom to accept what one does not know. Unfortunately, in our society, we have countless people who jump into every subject and answer every question as if they know. It is difficult to establish a relationship with a person who talks, discusses and gives advice on a subject he or she does not know, and it is even more difficult to be a friend. It is also difficult for that person to establish comfortable relationships with people. Socrates has an important place in my thought life. Hundreds of years ago, the philosopher of politics and life said: "There are judges, there are important people in society, they think they know everything about their own and other matters, but they don't know anything, I don't know anything either, but at least I know that I don't know". I also say that in today's world where human life is becoming more and more difficult, let's use the words hello, how are you, please, you are welcome, thank you, I apologize at every opportunity.

Let's apologize when necessary and when we are asked about things we don't know, let's confess open-heartedly that we don't know. We as individuals gain from this. Human relations are extremely important in social life. How are you sometimes? Or saying "thank you" can ease many tensions. 

In the meantime, I owe a debt of gratitude to all my friends and colleagues who read me and contribute to my articles with comments. 

Stay with love, respect and beauty