On "Love, Affection, Passion, Habit"
Today is Sunday, I have told you in my previous articles about the beauties that sociology adds to human life. Today, I will talk about the phenomenon of "LOVE", which tastes like a Sunday conversation, whose age and time are unknown...
I will try to explain this phenomenon, which is in every moment we live since the existence of human beings, to the best of my mind and as my pen writes. Of course, I would like you to know that while I am writing this, I will approach this subject sociologically and explain it from a philosophical point of view. Let's start with the subject of "love and passion" that you all know, but we cannot distinguish between them. If we are ready, let the life lesson begin, curtain. The thing called love is a feeling that many songs, poems and novels about love have been written, many pains have been suffered for the sake of it, and dizzying pleasures are experienced for the slices of the "moment" it exists. It is a concept that everyone wants but few people know what it is, and because it is not known what it is, it is something that is often confused with other emotions. The most confused concepts in male-female relationships are love, affection, passion and habit...
There are so many people who think that love or passion is "love". Love; It is an emotion that is usually felt suddenly. It contains excitement, confusion, sexual attraction. Just thinking about the person you fall in love with is enough to fill one's heart with excitement. Since love is not a feeling that develops over time, couples do not have the opportunity to get to know each other enough. The person in love is attributed the features that the lover creates in his own mind and wants to see, rather than the real features of the person. Philosophers say that when love comes through the door, logic goes out the window. That is why the person is now in the grip of his emotions. The beloved is perfect because "love is blind". Waiting for hours or traveling many kilometers to see the person in love, even for a moment, are normal behaviors, all of which are lived facts. Every time the phone rings, one's heart jumps, one thinks that one has fallen into a deep void. Finally, one day, true love appeared before him and it will last forever. Romance is at its peak. Thoughts have little to do with reality.
Each of the couples thinks that their feelings are more than the other. That's why jealousy is felt for the fear of losing it.
And what is feared will eventually come to pass. As time passes, the excitement of love begins to wane as the masks come off and the true faces of people are revealed. The accusations begin, “You have changed.” One begins to drift away slowly, the other begins to suffer with the panic of losing.
When efforts to return to the old days fail, emotions turn into hatred, revenge and passion, depending on the maturity level of the person. The rate of love turning into love is low. This is only possible among people with developed personalities. Because; There is no place for fear in the approach of love from the beginning of people who have already gained integrity within themselves. Expectations and illusions alike. There is no permanence in the nature of love...
People suffer because they don't know or can't accept it. If love still lasts, it lasts by turning into love...
Passion; is usually unilateral. Passion is selfish, passion is bondage, passion is indispensable. Passion is a destructive emotion that lacks common sense at all. The person continues his passion knowing that he is hurting himself. What are called love murders stem from passion. The person continues his obsession with the object he idolized and knows he will never be able to reach, at the cost of harming the person he thinks he loves. Time does not pass passion. It can only suppress. But even after years, passion is ready to rise again the moment it is encountered. This emotion, which has a predominantly aggressive aspect, can reach suicide if the attack is directed at the person himself, or to murder if it is directed to the captivity of passion. "Love" is the most dangerous and consuming emotion.
Habit; You know, there are couples who have put their heads on a pillow for forty years and never once said "I love you" to each other, or their partners "Do you still love me?" when they asked, "Would I have been with you all these years if I didn't love?" There are those who answer that, the basis of such long-term relationships is not love, but habit.
It is a partnership in need of couples who do not have the courage to be alone, who do not have the courage to be alone, whose self-confidence is not developed and who are not open to innovations, although they do not have intense interest in each other. There is monotony, laziness, lack of creativity in relationships based on habit. Habitual relationships can end when a new habit is born that can be replaced. Couples who, due to the fear of loneliness, cannot afford to break up even though they do not have a happy relationship, fall into this group. In other words, they think they share their single loneliness. But habit creates the illusion that loneliness is shared. I mean, your loneliness for two. Everyone can take a lesson from what I have written so far! your own
i can settle accounts in his inner world!
But those who know that I am a motorcycle lover know that every biker is also a country music lover. I will end by telling you about the love of Johnny Cash and June Carter. Here is that love and the last letter accompanied by my compilation. One of the greatest love stories of all time took place between country music legends Johnny Cash and June Carter. So much so that the letter that Johnny wrote to his love was chosen as the most beautiful love letter in the world. The beautiful June Carter, from Elvis Presley to Kris Kristofferson, burned the hearts of many men, met Johnny Cash when she was a successful musician who has survived two marriages and has two children.
What happened next was probably one of the most naive and greatest romances history has ever seen. Even a love movie was made about this experience. Be sure to watch 'Walk the Line'. Here is the magnificent letter:
"Happy birthday Princess, we've grown old together. So much so that we think the same about everything. We can read our thoughts. We can figure out what we want without asking each other. In a long lifetime, we may have been a little bit offended by each other; one of us may not have been understanding to the other. But today I realize how lucky I am to have shared my life with the most amazing woman I've ever known. You will fascinate me as you used to and continue to inspire me. You should know that I am still impressed by you. You are my desire, my existence, my logic... I love you so much"
Happy Sunday, every day, may your moment be with love. Don't be afraid to tell your loved ones you love them.
I say stay with respect and love.
