We are disgraced

Don't disgrace me!

Disgrace! It means to fall into an embarrassing situation, from Arabic.

Disgrace! This is Persian for the same thing.

For some reason we are used to using both together. Maybe that's how we prefer it. To disgrace and disgrace!

There is a rule in our language called meaning clarification or meaning reinforcement.

As we say, "Don't look at me like an idiot!", in other words, by using words twice in a row, we make what we mean more clear, and we do this mostly in adjectives.

She has blonde hair!

How beautiful you look at me with your beady eyes!

But look, in the case of "disgrace", we have thought of using both Arabic and Persian words together to clarify the meaning in a different way.

Don't disgrace me!

Isn't it interesting?

We do the same thing when we say "loss and damage".

Damage is Arabic, waste is Persian.

With the form zarar ziyan, you have Turkish meaning reinforcement.

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Anyway, let's leave the language rules for now, let's take a look at what makes a person disgraceful.

Yes, what do you think embarrasses people?

What doesn't!

If we try to count them here now, there is probably not enough space. As long as a person has a sense of shame. A person can feel disgraced by anything.

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Everything can disgrace a person, but see if people today are afraid of being disgraced.

It has become a fashionable discourse lately, you can be anything in Turkey, but you cannot be disgraced!

Because the arteries of many are cracked, no one is ashamed of the disgraceful things they do! They cannot be disgraced. It happens, but no one cares about being disgraced.

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There is such a thing as a vein of honour, isn't there?

Where exactly is the vein of honour? Does anyone know?

You don't need to think too much, to be honest, there is no medical equivalent of the vein of honour.

According to the rumour, the vein is located on the forehead, in the middle of the two eyebrows. This is also not medically correct.

According to TDK, the meaning of the expression "ar vein of honour is cracked" is "faceless", "far from shame", "lost the sense of shame".

By the way, the word "ar" is of Arabic origin and means "something to be ashamed of, shame, defect". In other words, ar vein is not a concept unique to us.

Probably this idiom must also be of Arabic origin.

Of course, this is just my guess.

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Yes, we were talking about being disgraced.

Look, for some reason, there is no such expression as being disgraced, we say disgraced, but we do not say disgraced, for example.

It is a meaningless discussion how the language develops, why it takes certain things from where, or why it progresses in this way instead of that way in some subjects. I analyse the Persian and Arabic words in our language whenever I have the opportunity, but I realised a long time ago that if I were to use only Turkish words, it would be almost impossible for me to express what I want to express in my articles. Therefore, I am not as concerned as I used to be about using completely Turkish words. Nevertheless, I try to use Turkish words as much as possible.

After this intermediate information, let's go into the sociology of the event.

Being disgraced is actually a social issue.

If all or the majority of the society is doing that disgraceful thing, no one will criticise you for doing the same thing.

So you are not disgraced, this concept is a relative concept.

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When I was little, there was a lot of spitting around.

Spitting was actually a natural behaviour.

Over time it became clear that this behaviour was frowned upon by society and today there are probably very few people spitting on the ground.

By the way, this is still not considered shameful in Russia. I see a lot of people spitting on the ground around here. Russians have remained at the same level of culture as when I was a child. Sometimes I even see people opening the door in traffic and spitting on the road.

In our country, fortunately, today's social rules are not like the social rules of my childhood, but if anyone sees someone spitting on the ground, the society around disgraces the person!

In this sense, I feel happy that we are a very civilised country.

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The issue of spitting is one thing, but in my childhood, it was as if the reactions of the society were much more moderate towards some of the issues that are considered to be disgraceful today.

For example, in the old days, young girls who were naked on their thighs were not criticised so much.

Nowadays, such girls are even officially lynched by some social groups.

On the contrary, there are many issues that used to be criticised a lot in the past, but are not given much importance today.

Shame on you, son, is that the right thing to do? Kissing in the street?

Today's young people live a much freer life, don't they?

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Anyway, aside from the situation of these young people, time really heals everything. I think the discussions about the ladies' clothes are history now. It seems like we are all used to each other about clothes. Perhaps this process was an obligatory process. I think everyone poured out the stones in their skirts and met in a reasonable way.

In other words, I think there is a certain improvement in society compared to the past.

However, it would be nice if those who go on picnics with the effect of the heat at the time of the holiday were a little more sensitive to environmental cleanliness. They have littered everywhere again, shame on them. Of course, have a barbecue, go for a picnic, but don't leave rubbish behind, brother, is it so hard to put it in a garbage bag and throw it in a garbage bin on the road?

We have barbecues here too, but we don't leave rubbish and mess behind.

Please be a little civilised. Don't embarrass us to the world. Look, even though our country is overpriced, tourists still come to our country. When they see the rubbish you leave behind, what will they say? What will they think of us?

You're embarrassing us to the world!

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There is also the dimension between the nations of the world, isn't there?

Like the taxis of Istanbul! Good for you. You have become famous worldwide! Whoever I come across now talks about being ripped off by taxi drivers in Istanbul.

You have no shame, do you?

It has become a habit now to cheat the other person easily because they are tourists.

But look, we're embarrassing the world!

Who cares, right? I look at what I see in my pocket, they are tourists, they earn the world's money, they are on a touristic trip.

And here we are having economic difficulties!

So keep behaving like this, let's see what will happen to the country's economy tomorrow when there are no tourists! As it is, at least tourist remittances have a certain benefit to the economy, we may be deprived of that benefit because of these disgraces.

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When we say that we are disgraced to the world, we still haven't really got it right in terms of sacrifice slaughtering.

Aside from the sacrifices slaughtered in the middle of nowhere, you can say butchers who do not know how to slaughter, again a lot of them chopped themselves.

Also, the sacrifice owners who kidnapped their calves became popular this holiday.

However, this Eid, we made the world news with the calf on the roof. Somehow there was a calf on the roof tiles this holiday.

I knew about the fiddler on the roof, now we have a calf on the roof!

Another news item was the goat that got caught in the telephone wires while trying to escape from the terrace. Fortunately, it was caught in the wires and was not injured on one side when it jumped from the terrace on the roof of the two-storey house.

Although when it was rescued, they put a knife to its throat, so this news did not save the poor goat from being sacrificed.

But what attracts the attention of foreigners the most are the blood streams on the streets, there are images of the flow of blood during the sacrifice.

I think we are disgracing the world with all these images.

I don't know whether they will enact a law or local governments will provide free butchers, but I think a more modern method that suits us should be found for slaughtering sacrificial animals during the sacrifice festivals.

I am not joking, we are really disgracing the world!

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Do you think I'm exaggerating?

It's said that this embarrassment can be a psychological disorder for some people.

Don't do that, you'll embarrass us!

Some people say that all the time. It's not just rhetoric, they are really afraid that they will embarrass people.

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There is also someone we call el-alem, isn't there?

Elalem means people. It has passed into our language from Arabic.

The word el here has nothing to do with halk, which is the meaning of the word el, which is a modified form of the Turkish word il, not the Turkish el, that is, the el we call our elimizi.

El'alem is the form of the word alem used with a determiner as a purely Arabic grammatical feature, in short, elalem means public in Arabic.

Some people really live with the fear of being disgraced, they think they are disgraced no matter what they do. Whatever if only they themselves think like this, if they have children, for example, such people make life miserable for their children too.

You've disgraced me! God damn you!

Not damn you, but damn you! Because if you say "damn you", it's a curse. Then Allah will really curse you. And you'll be left alone with your curse because you cursed him.

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In short, this job has two different sides like a pendulum, it is neither necessary to say, "Oh my God, you too, why am I being disgraced", nor to lament, "I am disgraced again".

It is necessary to balance life.

However, when you say balance, you will not say that everything is fine.

At least you will condemn those who leave rubbish behind the barbecue place so that they will not do the same next time!

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We tell him, but he says, "What's it to you, brother? And he swears behind our backs. I would have opened my mouth now, but I didn't want to spoil my manners. Then I was afraid because you're a little too big.

There are no morals left in society. It used to be better in the past, at least there was respect for each other.

Today's people are not as sensitive as they used to be, and they don't know what respect is.

Has society changed a lot in this process, what do you think?

Love and respect to everyone from Moscow