WHAT IS SINCERITY, HOW TO KNOW IF A PERSON IS SINCERE? (2)

Reminders of the Russo-Ukrainian War:

The most despicable and insidious act in life is to play the three monkeys. The current issue is that we sleep with the Ukraine-Russia event; We've all become war experts. Thanks to what, of course, thanks to the troll media, whichever channel we open, masha'Allah, experts, academics, retired commanders are telling. That's enough!

I can't help but ask what does an ordinary citizen have to do with war tactics or strategies? This troll media approach has turned people into lab rats. You wouldn't be surprised if they even try to buy our souls out of such metaphors tomorrow. That's the point anyway.

When I look at myself as a civilian without being a strategist and a war expert; I have the perception that the 64 km long convoy, which has been told and shown for days, is going on a picnic! Military vehicles have turned to a long-thin road in the form of beads. They made us wait for the end of a movie, regardless of the child-child, young-old man of a big city in desperation. They seem to enjoy inflicting psychological pressure on the whole world, such as Chinese torture, with the contributions of troll media or social media.

It is necessary to ask whether this convoy is on the road, the one who is suffering in despair against this convoy, or the so-called civilized world that allows it; Are you proud of your work? How sadistic do you have to be to stop this specter?

I know this disloyalty or unscrupulousness will not stop. Even if this ends, they will not stop aligning humanity with other scenarios. But let it be known that while trying to bring it into line, there is a rush on the way. Because the most inevitable truth in life is Truth. If that Truth is not now, it will surely come to light one day from the dusty pages of history.

When we go through the dusty pages of history, generations have been destroyed, so-called humanity boasts that they built civilizations on those grievances. Indians, Inca, Maya, Aztec civilizations, humanity enslaved because of the color of its skin, at the expense of values ​​that were destroyed in the first and second world wars. The so-called civilizations that declared war on China, which forbade the use of opium, in order to prevent their people from being drugged by opium.

It's an ironic question whose answer is no joke: What is it called when a country sends its soldiers with its guns, tanks, missiles and planes without being invited to another country?

If the country entered without being invited is Georgia or Ukraine, the answer is OCCUPATION.
If the countries that enter without being invited are Iraq, Syria, Panama, Vietnam, Laos, Cambodia, Libya, it is to take FREEDOM or DEMOCRACY.

Is it not really ironic hypocrisy that those who tell us about Russian oligarchs do not talk about their trust?

How well Nobel laureate Aziz Sancar said; “Humanity is dying in Ukraine.” it's called. “True but incomplete, because it is humanity; He was starved in Africa, raped in Bosnia, forgotten in East Turkestan, abandoned in Palestine, ignored in Chechnya, unheard of in Khojaly, deceived in Iraq, burned in Myanmar.

Although he has said what needs to be said so far; What is the reason? What's the solution? I can't help but say.

Management and Self-criticism:

Don't be offended by anyone. We may resent those who inflict these suffering on humanity, but before blaming them, we must take a look back at our own world. Yes, we should be able to self-criticize that we are the cause of all this suffering. The determinations of Aliya İzzetbegovic on this subject are significant.

“When we realize that we are neither true friends nor true enemies, and we blame ourselves for our problems, rather than the “enemy's catastrophe plans,” we experience a period of less disappointment, less problems, and our maturation begins.”

"If it were me, I would put "critical thinking" classes in all schools in the Muslim East. Unlike the West, the East has not passed through this brutal school, and this is the source of many of its weaknesses.” “Beautiful lies won't help, but bitter truths can be a medicine.”

Responsibility for accountability in life is emphasized for the following three categories. The rich, the scholars, and the rulers. This concept is defined as the people who will be questioned the most in the belief category.

We should carefully consider the importance of the concept of management. Management is important in terms of having social and moral responsibilities beyond being a duty, job, position and source of income.

The manager has to give priority to the best interests of his team, organization and society rather than his own personal expectations. Finding and providing solutions is the primary duty of the manager. Not being able to do these is a waste of time and resources no matter what.

In an institution I work for, we started a project to quit smoking in the name of social activity. We planned this ahead of time and got his approval. Information seminars and announcements were made on the subject. The demands for participation in the project were intense.

Although all the necessary infrastructure and process have been determined, it is appropriate for another unit of the presidency to which we are affiliated at the last moment. 

had been seen. The issue was important in terms of social added value. He was supporting one of today's problems in terms of social, social, health and financial aspects. That's why it didn't matter who would execute it, as long as this project that was ready with everything was started.

Regrettably, this project was sacrificed to personal causes. The reason was that the manager of the unit that was decided to run the project was a smoker. He couldn't tell others not to smoke while he was smoking.

It was a completely hypocritical approach. His only problem was that he didn't start this project himself, or he was insensitive.

The reason why I said a hypocrite was the inconsistency of the answer given and he covered it up with an example of Mevlana. The well-known example of Mevlana was as follows;

One day a child is brought to Mevlana,
The solution is asked because this child is stuttering,
Mevlana says come after 40 days,
When forty days later,
Mevlana says you give a lot of honey, he should not eat too much honey.
The family of the child who cannot understand this,
If it was that simple, he asks why did you make us wait 40 days,
Mevlana: Because I ate honey for breakfast the day you came,
How can I tell someone else not to eat something that I ate myself?

One of the topics was about self-cultivation, and the other was about finding a cure for a bad habit like smoking. I leave it to you, the readers, to appreciate the perception of the content of these two events. Here, the aphorism "both bald and fodul" could only be explained so much.

Sincerity and Honesty:

Sincerity is purely a matter of conscience. It cannot be expected that a person who is not conscientious will have good intentions. Managers are also human and it is normal for them to make mistakes. The virtuous is the one who makes amends.

For a long time, I was looking for someone to design and train the web for my department. Someone on the team recommended someone they worked with before. The young friend we invited for the interview came. The conditions I was looking for were behavioral rather than knowledge because somehow we were going to raise them according to our own needs.

I can say that the interview went well. There was enough information and he was very quiet, calm and respectful. The case in my mind was positive. Finally, I wanted to know your sincerity in a difficult situation. Actually, I wanted to understand honesty in a situation where it is needed more than sincerity. Somehow, I approached the subject with the perception that sincerity stems from honesty.

Although my intentions were good, my evaluation method was not a pleasant approach that came to my momentary emptiness. We were in the month of Ramadan. I have moved on to an issue that is not my duty and I have no right. It was time for lunch. I meant it myself. While it is usual to offer tea and coffee at interviews, it is unusual to offer to stay for dinner. This young man;

I asked him if he didn't want to stay for dinner.
For the moment, I wanted to know if he had intentions, even if it was unwarranted,
The young man was a little taken I guess,
But as if emphasizing that he does not want to compromise his personality,
He said without hesitation that he could stay,
I sent it to dinner with someone who was going to dinner.

I kept questioning myself while the young man went to dinner. I was uncomfortable creating an assessment situation on a faith-related issue. It was not morally right to discriminate. After finally returning from dinner;

I still remember,
He thanked,
While I haven't decided whether to hire or not,
And although I think maybe I should interview other candidates,
With a momentary self-reflex and in order to make up for my mistake,
I asked this young man when is the earliest he can start,
He said it will be early next week,
Then I said okay come on,
Ohhh thank goodness I was a little bit relieved,
It was a conscientious relief to turn from the wrong,
Indeed, that young man started work the next Monday,

I have worked with hundreds of people so far. I have yet to come across such a decent, honest and hardworking person. Although we went to different companies after working together for three years, I am proud to still be in touch over the past 25 years. More than an employee, I had gained a friend. “Those who cannot be honest cannot be sincere”

I had left the company before. After leaving my job, I was going to my hometown for a short visit. I coincided with my visit for the weekend. Even though it was the weekend, he was the only one who came to the airport to take passengers. Meanwhile, something happened that made me feel very emotional;

I was just getting on the airport bus when
This young man handed me an envelope,
I said what is this
He said it's okay, you look on the road, you can keep it for now.
I got on the bus in a hurry and we drove off,
The last time he waved goodbye to me,
I immediately opened the envelope,
Inside was a note and some cash.
I couldn't understand at first,
Then when I read the note, I was very emotional,
The note read:
You have been both a brother and a friend to me rather than a manager. You have a lot of work on me. I'm embarrassed to ask since you're my elder. This money is not a thing, but I wanted to give it in case you need it. You return it whenever you see fit. I thought maybe it would be needed on the way. I apologize if I hurt you.

This is loyalty, appreciation, friendship. It is one of the most important awards in my life. “Fidelity in place is the best of appreciation”

Sincerity and Justice:

We said goodwill, conscience, honesty and self-criticism as the ingredients of sincerity. We will reinforce this with more different concepts as the time comes. Let's add the concept of 'justice' to this. There is no sincerity without justice.

Of course, when it comes to justice, Hz. We call it Omer's justice. It is true, there is no justice without understanding that justice.

Al-Jazari says, “I saw that every science that was not practiced remained in suspense between right and wrong.”

Justice is not justice in the justice that originates from this apocalypse, remains only in the language and is carried out according to our work. The biggest obstacle to the proper implementation of justice is our ego. Our ego takes us from the Truth, which is closer to us than our jugular vein, and makes us a prisoner of our own world.

It is necessary to refrain from giving the name of the person and / or company / institution, because getting into a personal fight with someone takes us from the Truth and makes us a prisoner of our selves. Even if it is unintentional to give the name of the institution, it may harm the values ​​of this nation. We should not become a prisoner of our selves by breaking our bond of heart with our ideal and letting our willpower out because of a few incompetent and unfortunate rulers.

But I will have a word with some unfortunate people I have to work with. Even if your intentions seem good, you should not be surprised by the justice of that Omar. It would hurt your conscience to offer your own son, daughter-in-law or relative, even though they are not qualified, with honey and cream.

In engineering, a 10-cent mistake at the start of a project can cost billions when the project isn't fixed, if left uncorrected. First of all, it is a right of use to redress loyal and sincere people who bring up some vital mistakes.

Do you ever think of the justice of Omar that we talked about a lot? You can bring it, we know, even you think you convinced us with it. But I saw you as Al-Jazari said, "I saw that every science that is not practiced remains in suspense between right and wrong." It is a duty to warn with his word.

In fact, rather than the internal and external dynamics, in my opinion, the greatest danger is the hypocritical misfortunes among us who seem to be right. The most concise expression of this takes on flesh and bone in Atatürk's Address to the Youth.

Hz. Omar's management and direction of the conquests, solving the various problems that emerged, his decisions about the captives and non-Muslims, the establishment of new cities, and the management of the conquered large geographies are the methods and styles that should be looked at as an example. Despite the time, it is useful to look at how the desired and longed justice is carried out. Hz. We are wrong if we think that Omar will have endless powers while managing such a huge geography. A few rumors that have come down to us;

Hz. It is rumored that Omar had at least 10 patches on his dress.
Hz. Omar did not have special bodyguards,
He would travel among the people, listen and help,
He ruled the conquered places by the governors he appointed, and he changed them frequently,
Governors could not engage in trade. They could not have any income other than state allocation,
Governors were subject to constant control,
When there was an unjust increase in the assets, he was punished and his unjust gain was confiscated,
All governors were required to come to Mecca for the Hajj each year. When they came, they had to face those who had complaints from the people from their region,
The appointed members of the judiciary were also authorized and independent from the Caliph.
He kept the people he trusted most in the position of governor in the center in order to consult on the solution of the problems immediately. For example, Hz. Ali is one of them.

A short story is as follows; The Conqueror of Egypt Amr Bin As Hz. He was a governor that Omar greatly valued and held. During the obligatory Haj period, when one of Amr's subjects expressed his problem, Amr had to answer.

Amr bin As Hz. He offered to abandon this method by making a reproach to Omar. Omar's answer was clear and unequivocal, all you had to do was "make no mistake".

Conclusion:

If we summarize today's world justice; “two plates and a spoon, his name is a dish”

Self-criticism is the cost of sincerity.
Those who are dishonest cannot be sincere.
“Beautiful lies won't help, but bitter truths can be a medicine.”
“Any science that is not practiced remains in suspense between right and wrong.”
Some will always look bad in this world, but we will live to look good no matter what.