When did nobility and courtesy leave our society?

Anyone who watches visual broadcasts will undoubtedly understand better what I mean. The language and style used by the government and the opposition of the country actually shows the state of insanity the country is in. We all know that this reckless discourse will continue to increase until the local elections at the end of March. The biggest indicator that we have forgotten a little nobility and courtesy as a society is the attitudes exhibited in this political arena. Imam and congregation account, if those who govern the country have left the language of courtesy aside, what should our ordinary people do?

In the world we live in, the main theme of courtesy rules is people's relations with each other. Saying thank you, responding to a thank you, using the word please, addressing the other person by name, standing up when someone comes, saying hello, empathizing, being a good listener are some of the rules of courtesy. The rules of courtesy, which make people more comfortable and peaceful in daily life, positively affect the life of the society and help it to be attractive. Manners are the art of directing life. A polite person listens and respects others when talking to them. They know how to listen without interrupting or judging. He avoids using vulgar, abusive or insulting language.

There is also the matter of having dignity. I am not referring here to the notions of nobility or royalty that used to be more common in European cultures. I am not talking about the so-called nobles who are born with certain privileges and bear special titles, either by birth or by decree of the ruler. When we say noble people, we should think of people of high character who are dignified, straightforward, principled, do not pursue simple calculations, are not opportunistic, are full of courage, are true to their word, have fortitude and conscience, do not dishonor their honor for their own interests, are dignified, do not demand what they do not deserve, but do not give them their due. 

It is not known whether nobility comes from kindness or kindness from nobility, but we know that grace is born from both. The fabric of kindness that sits on what we call noble has always been valuable. Please look at the noble, kind, elegant people around you. You will immediately notice them walking down the street, sitting in a park, eating in a restaurant or talking to someone. The words noble, kind, elegant bring to mind Atatürk, the founder of our country. One is looking for the nobility that emerges with that graceful oratory, courteous attitude and behavior, and a stance that arouses respect. These are things we don't see much in our statesmen and politicians nowadays. 

In fact, the roots of nobility are hidden in the human soul. It is an indication of growing up in a good family. It is the outward reflection of what kind of person you are. A noble person is the one who does no harm to anyone, on the contrary, the one who reflects beauty and goodness from himself to his surroundings. They make themselves different in every environment. In noble people, heart, brain and tongue go in the same line. They do not play differently against anyone. As the famous thinker Mark Twain said; "Kindness is such a language that the deaf can hear and the blind can see." But unfortunately, nobility is hard to carry. This dress does not look good on everyone. It is too big for some and too small for others. Some wear it like a relic no matter what they do. 

On the other hand, nobility has a rival. That is impudence, vulgarity. And the shameless one who tries to be noble is a complete disaster, that is, an upstart. Some people imitate and pretend to be noble, but without realizing it, they only simplify themselves. It is hard not to laugh at these people. 

Think of it like copper, you wipe it, polish it, and three days later it tarnishes again. So for nobility, there will first be a settled personality. The fabric of that person will be of good quality. Then it will come by itself. 

Nobility and kindness is like a river flowing from within. Its water never runs out, it flows continuously. In fact, in order to lead a noble life, I think it is best to be a role model instead of saying do this or do that. Because a person is the mirror of his family. Everything starts in the family. Nobility and kindness also start in the family first. 

Nowadays, when we are getting further and further away from grace and kindness, we see a lot of people around us who lack kindness. Banality and simplicity have become so widespread that I witness that many people almost see having nobility as a kind of defect. People are worried that if they behave in a noble and kind manner, they will starve, they will be pushed around. Because they know that unkindness is on the rise. The opinion that polite people have no rule in a world dominated by rude people is widely shared. 

Our ancestors have said that a backslider is better than an upstart. Indeed, this is the right thing to say about upstarts. The upstarts, who acquire their wealth and position easily, are seen walking around like ducks. These unkind people are rude, cruel, greedy and countless. Regardless of their social status, they live day to day, they cannot hide their rudeness and arrogance from their surroundings without even realizing it in order not to disturb their comfort, but they do not know that they only make themselves laugh.

I have a dream like this: How to live a life of courtesy, grace and dignity should be taught in our schools. What do you think, wouldn't that be nice? We have destroyed the family structures that could teach these lessons, that could be role models for their children. Maybe schools degenerated before the family institution. Maybe the bread was spoiled first, but we have to start somewhere. It is necessary to clean up this society, these people, before the salt stinks too much. 

Can politics do this? Don't make us laugh, I hear you say. Unfortunately you are right.

Stay with love and respect