Why is it necessary to make peace with our past?

I think the most decisive key to solving problems is "Making Peace with the Past". In fact, when you decode your past, you can see the same things you have done or will do today. In Roman basilicas, there was a keystone. When this keystone was removed, the building would collapse. Just like these Roman basilicas, when a person's past is erased, it collapses and he can no longer walk towards the future. Because it is his past, in a sense his own special history, that moves him forward. 

In fact, we are all what we have experienced in our pasts! Our past is our personality. Rightly or wrongly, we call what we remember from our experiences 'ourselves'. We do not change by rejecting bad experiences. On the contrary, we pave the way for the repetition of bad experiences. Forgetting mistakes means foregoing the lessons we need to learn. To reject the past is to give up on a better future. Man is a product of his past. Every human being should accept his/her past with maturity, whatever has happened as part of his/her identity, knowing that his/her future is built on it.

As we engage with life, with others and with our own roles, we should not lose sight of the past and the future. As a person who is at peace with her past, I want to focus on making peace with our past, accepting what we have been through and connecting with it. Those who read my writings know that most of my writings are based on the human being. After all, isn't one of the purposes of writing to communicate with each other and with our inner world? 

Whatever is good and bad in the inner world of human beings, bridges are built between them. These bridges are necessary to make peace with the past. To continue to live our lives as a whole in peace with our past is to live without severing our ties with our past. 

Constantly remembering or longing for our past causes us to struggle with the spiral of constantly re-enacting the past in our minds. It tires us out, like the youtube application that keeps spinning the same short movie in our heads, causing us to get stuck in the same place. Thinking about past mistakes often brings regrets and what ifs. If we are stuck in the past, we miss the present moment. The missed moments will one day be gone. The same things continue to be experienced for them. In such a cycle, it becomes almost impossible to step into the future without making peace with the past. A genuine future cannot be built without making peace with the past.

History, which we perceive as the author of the past, is in a sense not behind. History is a companion for us who continues with us, who takes note of whatever we experience in this thing called life. What our companion will write is linked to what has happened and what will happen. Human beings, who have not yet fully understood the flow of time, should not evaluate what they have experienced as if it has already passed. To see time as a straight line, to think of it as linear progress, is only a misconception. We have lives that are too small to even be mentioned in the universe, and our life flows continue as past, present and future. Indeed, each of us realizes and has to accept that we have a very short lifespan in the universe. 

When we look at the phenomena of past and future, as we continue on the journey of life, the past ends and the future begins. What we call the future instantly becomes the past and makes room for the future to come. It is important to understand this movement. In fact, the past and the future are the same thing, in fact, together they are just a moment, and what we experience is our memories. We are connected to our past, just as the past and the future are connected. 

In life, the future is based on the past. Seeing the future can only be possible by analyzing the past. For a good analysis, we must first accept the past in all its forms, with all its sins and good deeds. But we cannot do this with the distorted understanding of history of modern times, with the consumer culture that wants to cut us off from our pasts. Because globalization is almost a natural obstacle for us to see the whole. It is necessary to work to untie the blindfolds of modern life. We need to see what is behind the monetary order, what is really happening, and this can only be possible through an unprejudiced acceptance of individual lives and then living the future with a fearless understanding of history. 

It is certain that unless we learn from our mistakes, we will continue to make the same mistakes. This is as true for humanity as it is for human beings. When we look at history, it is difficult to see mistakes. Because we have written about successes and ignored mistakes. Only the mistakes of defeated states are recorded. When the mistakes always belonged to others, people could not learn the necessary lessons for themselves. In a way, we can say that history consists of repetition because lessons are not learned. Considering that the history of humanity is a history of destruction and annihilation, trying to forget the past, or taking only a part of it into our vocabulary and leaving the rest, may have bitter consequences for us in the future. 

Therefore, it is important for every human being to find a way to live without wishing they had the mind they have now. What I have written so far is what I have deduced from my own life course. What I have written and conveyed to you is what life has shown me. The source of my desire to write is the beautiful comments and encouraging words I receive from you.

A sentence like 'If I had my current mind...' is used to express regret for mistakes made in the past. What happened in the past happened and we or someone else made a mistake. Our remembering those mistakes over and over again does not give us the chance to correct that past mistake. The best thing to do is to accept our past and forgive ourselves and those who made mistakes against us, even if it is difficult. We need to do this first and foremost for our own mental health. This is not so easy to do. It may be necessary to seek professional support, to see a psychologist. Mental health experts are there to help us drain the swamp that we ourselves have created in our past but cannot get out of. Let us know that we can only drain this swamp with our own efforts together with the experts. Let's leave all but the positive experiences of our past in the swamp and continue on our way. Let our saddlebags be full of diamonds and rubies that we carry as hope for the future, not the rough stones of the past that weigh us down, so that we can continue to live by valuing ourselves and feel that we are valued.

Stay with respectful love.